Seasons

Into the day, hi!

In this regard, reference to changes in our lives I noted this factor the past week, seasons. No doubt as I focus on growth, neglecting time would defeat the purpose. I am further making it a point to value this with what I hope is more than just familiar with you, the book of Ecclesiastes 3:1 which reads; "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” This is going to be a good one!

My angle is taking shape following matters of growth and how relationships we have with other people can work against our illumination and be just as instrumental to it. Taken mostly from my own personal experiences and some of others, the company you keep is either helping you grow to be the best version of yourself or the most redundant you can ever be. Furthermore, the relationships you are holding onto whilst the other party is no longer interested is literally limiting your growth as your efforts are being wasted. I know how this truth hurts believe me. It is very devastating to accept that you are not worth someone's time, attention and love. This, especially if it is someone you have experienced life with once upon a time in good times and supported one another through the bad just as well. However, people come and go just as seasons do.

It often is one of those drama-filled phases or just an abrupt ending. At times, you do not quite know what lead to this. You feel as though it is not sensible to take it as it is (the fact that they are no longer interested in being close acquaintances and your time is up), since you are not ready or understanding why it is over and they are moving on. Your kind gestures are deemed annoying and your instincts are trying to convince you to let go. If you have been through this and overcome, you will remember how much sleep you lost and the pain you felt when you kept trying to tell yourself you are just reading too much into their actions towards you, even worse when they were farther from you. I am not talking about romantic relationships per say here, but the kind that leans to friendships. Well, I went through this last year and took it light. I was going on with my good intentions, in denial and positive as ever, refusing to take a hint since I am not feeling the need to. Then boom, it was clear how so done the relationship is (details are not so important for it is over). So clear, I knew at that moment that I am limiting my growth and the energy I used to their concern could have been deposited to those who are interested. The person I used to be, before i started investing in my well-being from 2018 would have crashed and burned. I would have made it a big deal and even started analyzing my lovability. I would be stuck; undermining myself, devaluing my capabilities as far as socializing is concerned, all the way to even asking some of the people close to me what they love and think of me. I am telling you, this season in one’s life is cold if one tries to mend what is broken, they can literally breakdown. Dedicating your time to people who are done with you can limit your growth into loving yourself and appreciating those who are for you, as you are. If you detected any lies, do share!

Time for everything is in this case, time for everyone. I have been putting God first to maintain a good balance. As you invest in your time with God, you become more fulfilled in the direction of your life and how His will is putting things and people into place. There is no reason to be chasing after seasons that have passed when you can be present in the one at hand. So what if you are no longer close to someone, are you to yourself? Do you really have room to accommodate people who are not feeling your vibe when the ones who do end up getting the drained you? Could it be that you are stuck in what and with who makes you think you do not matter and that you are not enough? It is stated, " ...a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing: ..., a time to cast away," _ Ecclesiastes 3: 5-6 (#TheBible).

Given that we all go through different phases as we attempt to live a full life, when you go through a time when you are insisting on holding to what is saying let go, how much of yourself would you be losing? I for one am starting to take this matter serious as I have had this lesson excessively, if it is done- learn and be done with it. After all, what is meant for you will find you. If it is meant to be, it will dawn into a new season when it is time. I am choosing to grow in this season, and not fish for reasons to hold on to the one lost.

As I sing along to the song Set your mind free (Original mix) by Sis' N' Jones featuring Khanyi, there is a liberated me dancing as I write. The more I invest in myself, the more I am achieving on things that help me grow. I am experiencing and approaching matters of life with gladness and in full embrace. When it hurts I take it, when it is freeing i let it. When it is sad, I grieve; and when it is gives, I accept. I just thought of two songs while on this, Changes in my life by EletroCandi and the one by Alicia Keys - Lesson Learned featuring John Mayer, this is all too good. It is growth all around. Be present in the season of your life, it matters just as You Matter!

The focus is on growth, it has been amazing so far. What a season!

Regards

Livhuwani