Self-appoint for your own approval…

I always wake up and open up myself to some positive vibes... 🌞

Although I have learned to feed myself on some Self-affirmations, nothing quite brightness my mood like good encouragement from people I don't even know. This is merely because I use to look for encouragement from people I know, whom I am close to, not in a healthy way, but in a dependent way.

I use to feel entitled to their attention since they say they love and care for me. It only made sense, but it also meant a whole lot of disappointment. It is no wonder seeking approval was a thing for me, because I didn't quite know how much power I had within me to empower myself, instead of looking at others. Sure I have some rough experiences of neglect that could justify all this. But let's focus on taking charge of oneself instead.

You can call it self-inflicted wounds from imposed expectations on others that I suffered severely from disappointment, in the case of this present thread. Having unhealthy and negative expectations on others means you have a hard time comprehending imperfections or short-comings. It means you have a hard time valuing challenges. It can also suggest a certain lack of accountability. That use to be me. At this point in time, as a result of such brutal experiences, the discomfort of disappointment has shaped me to look at God first, Pray for those I love, be more grateful and be active in making myself feel positive about life.

Everyone has their own burden to carry. Everyone is looking for something. Every one is in their own journey with proper humbling experiences. What matters is, you value being good at harnessing a sense of self that isn't dependent on what others can afford you. Instead, afford yourself a life that serves to your own personal independence, improvement and development. The attention you are seeking from others can be found from attending to yourself I once shared, and this needs to be gracefully executed through SELF-CARE INVESTMENTS. In other words, Self-appoint for your own approval. Do not leave it to others. You can surely surround yourself with those of good Vibes and Influence. No harm in that. But, remember that even then it is still your own responsibility to substantiate your relations.

Most of us have good intentions and somehow lack in having healthier ways on delivery. It is therefore important that we focus on improving our quality of life by investing in ways that support our intentions /motives to standout as intended.

Serving our good intentions involves being accountable, proactive, self-aware, fervent in appreciating our good traits, and keeping room to learn and grow.

It Matters, You Matter!

Some posts I wrote on Managing Expectations that can help :

https://www.bylt.info/post/managing-expectations-part-i-the-pressure-you-put-on-yourself

https://www.bylt.info/post/managing-expectations-part-ii-the-response-you-give

Regards

Livhuwani