To be Young, Wild and Free…

Let me tell you all about this Youthfulness thing, in my perspective.

It’s rather a stage of determined expectations that you should be somewhere in life, having done things and achieved. That you must have everything figured out. It is filled with quests to find and have stability in just about everything; partner, career, family, house, crew, style, funk... It feels like experiencing life as a youth is just one big set up for having life stump on you. I mean life has really just begun but somehow it feels like you should be experienced. You are just getting to know yourself better, right? However, you long to have a balance in everything but honestly, you are just filled with pressure. Did I take the right path? Why can’t it work for me? Will it work? Is it working? There is drama, there isn’t, it’s real but also just in your head. There is a sense that you are “experienced” based on your years, but really, you are learning and unlearning every day, about yourself and life.

Being a Young adult for me is about outgrowing my past every single day. In essence, I am a definite work in progress. Lord knows I am! On this day I am sure I can and the next day I ridicule myself as to why I think I’m special. Of cause, spiraling is a thing. The biggest part of this is that I think I have time but honestly, time has me. So, I have learned to take it one day at a time, this adulthood matter. Drink water!

To be a youth to me concerns presence. It means having to be on the lookout for that incentive to be a better person and be able to derive a willingness to dive in. Of cause, it would have to be something that adds value to my life. A discovery that will discount aspects embedded in Self-doubt and Self-neglect. The embrace of growth!

Youthfulness to me is no longer about making it big, it is more about being bigger than the small voice that tells me I cannot be anything more than what I am. It is about being full of expression. Courageous in speaking my mind and walking my talk. It is about helping someone find a voice too, by just seeing and reading between the lines- “being Livhuwani” really takes. It is about knowing that my voice Matters and I can use it for good! That I Matter and so does the next person.

Yes, Wild for me is about having the interest in being happy. It is about having fun. I do not mean having booze and spinning bottles. Fun for me is more like having that good relationship with myself, that of being comfortable in my own skin. I have found this to be one of the most important lesson to take in my life. The lesson on taking interest in myself, truthfully and gracefully . Fun is about dancing and laughing when the time comes to do so. For it goes by just as quick for the next devastating predicament. It is about going crazy on ice cream, perhaps turn and shake heads with a little disapproval, remember the child in me sometimes. This I know means I would have been care free and unbothered for just a moment. Something most adults feel they can’t afford.It is just this one life, being too serious all the time is unhealthy I have found. Who does not need “good” fun! Who does not need to skip cooking and just eat takeaways sometimes? How about buying a Jean when you actually went to buy socks, for its winter? I mean, go out instead of staying in, sometimes… Take a day off work, a day to yourself, hmmm!

Free for me is about exploring opportunities. I appreciate the kinds that we make for ourselves mostly, for life has taught me that waiting on “something “/” someone” is a terrible idea. At least be busy with something as you wait. Like having a garden, instead of crying you are hungry to the government. Having a side hustle instead of complaining that the pay isn’t enough. To be Young and Free is to me what it is referred to as taking care - investing in myself. Freedom is about being able to work towards goals, making my dreams come true, valuing growth and change. It is about making choices. I do know from experience that I am not going to always make the right ones, but I sure want to be able to make use of this Right, exceptionally. I know God’s will and His lead will have its way for my good!

In recognition of those who fought for democracy, may I not be part of the problem in this country, but be part of the solution. I am so not going to talk about politics any further than this.

For those I am close to, may I be the kind of member in our community who builds in ways that inspire. Be influential to what elevates your inner person more. A good person to you, the best to myself.

In honoring The Giver of Life, may I be humble enough for You to keep dwelling in me.

And this is what being Young, Wild and Free means to me. It means being able to be, me. Not too out there but definitely not hiding. Bruised but not damaged. Challenged but not hopeless. Hurt but not giving up on love. It Matters, You Matter!

To youth Day...

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Regards

Livhuwani