You Matter! - The Transcendence...

The past few weeks were good and I was brave enough to keep focused on Self-Care. I have highlighted some of the things that are worth paying attention to as far as my growth is concerned. Lack of discernment was one of them and that I can sure use plenty of self-reflecting. It is not that I am utterly bad at this; I just know I can grow in those areas. This is why, I am investing on a higher purpose this month, that of transcendence.

The Evolution

First point of departure – as it reads; “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.” That is Proverbs 3:5

Trusting a higher power is not as easy as it is set out to be a matter of not being realistic or practical, in this world. Whenever something seems not to get you closer to being “Outstanding”, it is set aside as pointless. It is sad for the same applies with human life. It is hard to keep believing you matter when so many other aim to drag you down. I keep getting the, why I keep writing and share as if I am appointed and honoring a sponsorship. There has been questions in the tune of it seems like a waste of time to be talking about my experiences as if there is something special about them. One day, I was told that I do not get enough audiences to feel encouraged to keep at it. It is not easy to hear nor comprehend such remarks. It is however, very telling to me for I seem to gain more courage to continue with matters of self-care every day. This must mean I am in this for a purpose bigger than I am. When I started this, I had no idea where it could lead. However, I knew who I wanted to lead me (this should hint who my sponsor is). I have made many mistakes and gracefully kept accepting the need to improve. The key here is that, I am building on everything I know needs awareness. To share is helping me grow. Every single post I put out, I have revisited to calm myself down when things get rough. Of cause, the more I keep at this, the more exposed my shortcomings become known. It is helping me loosen up and enjoy being free in my expressions. I have less to fool myself by and hide day by day. The things I shared in the inception phase of You Matter! - were a bit juicy. At this phase however, it is more about refinement. My style is changing and my message is growing. That which will get the heart beating in a pace of self-awareness to everything that can bring good change is evolving. This is what You Matter! – is reaching, a mindfulness and soulfulness that allows both you and I give in to what the heart wills and be at peace with what is. I recognize this with a humble heart.

Self-transcending is what I will call consciously letting go of what is not, trusting in what is and then hoping in that which is to come to be of light. - LT

I am in a state of redefining. This means I will definitely do a lot differently and mostly have impositions to changes. I hope to have new things to go on about. What I am most certain of is that I will not be the same as I was every single day I invest my heart in trusting the Lord. Here is the deal, I need a cleaner heart, ears that listen better and eyes that see beyond what blinds. If I may, this will need more time invested in hearing the word of God, so that my faith can keep growing. This will prompt facing my own impurities as much as possible. For one, I have anger issues. This means I overreact a lot and conclude on assumptions. Mainly, for I take things too personally, that is to say I am not as objective as one should be. I also tend to impose myself to other people’s struggles, carry them as my own, to the point my spine gets numb (Physical health takes strain). In these instances, I would be so focussed in coming across as helpful while my health takes a knock. Soon after that, I start weighing everyone around me down and obviously in more need of help than the person struggling does. I need to draw lines on this, so that I do not drag other people down more than they are in their season of trouble. It is telling I need to let go of the saviour complex, as it is proving toxic. I can however, keep up with my ability to encourage others, just not with a mentality that I am always needed. So, if I have been a bit distant lately to you as a close acquaintance, just know that I am taking care of myself for the interest of both us. I have not forgotten about you and I am definitely praying for you. I also can use a filter when others share their thoughts and feelings with me. I have a weakness of turning the attention to me. This just means I do not listen well. I know for sure I need to move away from this, as it suggests I think I am more important. It is in my own Self-transcendence that I invest in meditating more, so that I can gather myself. It is a good thing I have just a key to prompt this, Yoga. I need to respect others more. When you approach me with your life’s giving, I hope to be less obsessed with mine, in comparison and feelings that I can relate. Pheeeuw!

“It is essential to our health and happiness that we dedicate ourselves to some kind of mission or purpose that transcends the mundane hustle and bustle of daily living.” - Oli Anderson

The chase of a soft life is not helping. To me, soft life has something to do with worldly riches. I need to transcend beyond this mundane thought. I need to develop a new perspective personally as far as “soft-life” entails. I need an inscription to keep investing on what has already been placed in my life to live a life filled with contentment. I really do admit that money matters. It is just that I do not want to live in the chase for it. I want to have it but not be controlled by it or define the quality of my life based on my bank balance. I am very certain that while some of us are gracefully getting by financially, some have not such a favor. They still have to beg and accept handouts. To them, poverty is in every form there is. This is why, I feel it is good to be rich, but true personal wealth of being healthy beyond finances would be better. Consciously, may I never take for granted the fact that I am getting by and it is not a bad thing. Some people have it worse and they have never had any better all their lives. Fact is I can invest more in being grateful as a way to transcend to a higher living standard. I sure can grow through everything. I am trusting that it will be even better if I give more. The wise advocate it bears more blessings than when you are just a taker.

Paul spoke; “ In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive. ” – Acts 20: 35

It is with great pleasure to be humbled in introducing this month’s theme, A Matter of Transcendence (Investing in better living standards). What is happening is that, choosing to grow is stripping me off my feet especially where I thought I was most comfortable, admirable and capable as well as good at. It would seem, self-awareness is opening up new doors and paving new paths. In addition, I am present whether left impressed or challenged by what Self-Care Investments are revealing. As I indulge, may God lead what my consciousness invokes. To a more woke conscience, I plead.

Here is to transcending… I welcome opportunities to be refined.

Source : https://positivepsychology.com/self-transcendence/

Regards

Livhuwani