A Vibrant You Matters!

A lively you is happy with them self when no one is around and looking. The comfort is that you adore your own skin and have it accessible, at peace when finally out in the open. This is what a Vibrant You Matters is all about. The most I feel vibrant is when I am praying and dancing . I feel naked when I pray. I feel so free when dancing. Over time I've grown to pray openly and not worry too much about a perfect delivery. This allows me to pray when shattered or at my most happiest moments. And a spiritual vibrant me has come to life because of the release from saying a "perfect long prayer". I even do and share spiritual devotions now, I do not consider them as "preaching" but a means to serve the Lord. Much like how I feel when I dance, I’m definitely not doing it to impress but for the pure joy of it. Platforms and Positions don't really sway me away from this. A prayer to me is a talk that allows me to address mostly what nobody here on earth can really comprehend or compare, as far as my faith is concerned. At times I pray venting, I pray in tears, at times calm and collected, but mostly I pray when I'm looking for a position of cover from whatever feels bigger than myself. This being what I can't control. The safety, the protection, solutions, change,... A spiritual vibrant matters as a whole is what I would call, a free imperfect me surely humbled by life. And so I always say "I come before You humbled". I usually conclude with "may your will be done" "pray for this and more", amen! You can say praying for me is a good as dancing, I can find expression in dancing through the emotions, pleasant or unpleasant. “A vibrant inner life is far more powerful than a busy outer one.” -David Romanelli According to Romanelli, it is an inner presence that needs to be vibrant. I totally agree, simply because I have come to note and be aware of how so many outward factors tend to swing at me when I invest in doing what I love. Meaning it is an intimidating and impactful experience. And what I love has everything to do with self-care. The thing about being invested in your well-being is, people around you are hardly ever about it, ready for it, understanding it. As a result, you come across a way selfish. It really requires you be bold and brave to really not take on others darkness and make it your own but still be kind and caring. You can easily find yourself closed up fearing being happy while others are going through the most. I know all about this all too well. I have grown to really respect people who can really be compassionate but not consumed by other people's trauma or hardships. I am making progress in this department. It comes across as wild and ruthless sometimes, but I can now dance on my darkest days. And for some guts in me, I have an absolute disinterest in trying to change other people but just help them remember how much they matter. I can still use a balance on this because I sometimes dismis stuff that concerns my health to insure I do not repeat myself on something I have addressed. Like I am starting to avoid being "a drama queen". A drama queen can be a woman who cares too much, like myself. Once I realize you are not about the change, I look away. Of cause, there is a downside to this especially with this close relationships we have. It can be dangerous to not care any more or avoid hard conversations. In fact it is cowardice. It ain't vibrant at all for inside you are dying. It needs a balance for sure because having to be on someone's case about the same thing over and over again is draining. Likewise, not addressing things is a death trap.

A Vibrant You Matters relates to an honest, positive and also practical being. It is really about gravitating towards what really works for you and not being apologetic for it. It is about doing you and everyone else experiencing you that way. I am sure most adults know this struggle. Like the one of having to put up a brave front in environments that just supremely suppress your real thoughts and feelings about something or someone. Think about what you put up with at work for example. Imagine how much better you would be at being productive if you didn't have to deal with that manager who absolutely believes you are not worth more than what you get, no matter how good you are at your work. I am sure the toxic environment is affecting how you present yourself even outside work. And considering the kind of economy we are in, that paycheck somehow feels like you must take the toxins and wear them well as a part of adulting. Oh well, it doesn't really help with the mood every time you wake up to prepare for work does it! The cycle is Vicious. So there must be something you have done to cope that you actually do not like. Maybe you no longer do more than you know you can or even care about performance bonuses. And you no longer even think of applying for promotions. There is no vibrancy in all that. How can you get it going for yourself again? In a manner of the general response, the advice would be that you surround yourself with people that are not on the down low, that you do you, what you love. The exercise and be active suggestion, minimize time in toxic situations as much as possible and even that you eat healthy, Self-Care as much as possible. All this helps for sure in being more vibrant. It is the hard sustainence of it all that is more challenging, because life is such a giver of patterns that gets us out of tune. You can be so determined and dedicated to be so in on doing what you love, and boom, your child needs your attention and your motherhood kicks in with the fear of actually saying no, and before you know it, your day is done and you absolutely have no room to even read that novel you have spent the last four days waiting to arrive. Then the weekend is done and your working hours are crazy and sleep is more important. Crazy huh! You will start reading that book maybe two weeks later while the vibe has buzz out. Damnit! I have come to understand this lately, there is a certain level of being extra on your boundaries and limits that needs to be reached in order to even get to the bear minimum. It has something to do with not saying yes to everything. To actually saying I don't like soccer I'm not going to watch it with you, I will be busy painting my nails. It has something to do with texting that you saw that missed call and will call back , and this is you actually calling two days later . The - may I be excused for an hour, I need to take a nap kinda of vibes. I am writing exams in the next three weeks and mute group chats. How about I will be meeting a friend for lunch, care to hold the front while I indulge? It is about noticing changes about yourself and being able to gracefully express and be about them. Maybe you do not enjoy that popular restaurant's menu any more your lover likes, have the guts to say I would like to try something different. Your sense of style might have evolved, maybe wearing baggy for comfort is no longer you because you have grown to love yourself and no longer shy to show some skin with dignity. You shouldn't be thinking about your church leaders and what they will say if you post a picture on social media having a fine chillas on shots with your family and mates. You should be having fun, thinking about the good time and memories you are making. Actually, a Vibrant You Matters is about a bold you. There is a certain level of daring required for you to gravitate towards a healthier, more present and lover of life being. You must be willing to take risks and be confident in being out there letting the inner you pop. Just think about one person you have deemed a "don't care". Yes, they are not out there reserving themselves to please you, and you call it not caring. They are messing up there and there but definitely not hiding from life and its joys. Don't you just envy them? This is how much more spectrum there is with building on Self-awareness. You can grow to have this kind of perspective on life. You can actually grow to desire being brave enough to present yourself as authentic as possible. It eventually becomes organic for you to express what will sound unpopular, shocking, unbecoming because it is your truth. Your truth is key to a Vibrant You. May you find bits in this piece to rethink and refine what needs more of your truth. This can surely not only help build healthier relationships with others, but it can also attract mostly those energies meant for you to actually thrive at just being you. Here is a few quotes I found while at this: It has been my observation that the happiest of people, the vibrant doers of the world, are almost always those who are using - who are putting into play, calling upon, depending upon-the greatest number of their God-given talents and capabilities.- John Glenn It takes a lot of effort to be vibrant.- Tom Stoppard If we allow ourselves to stay amazed and astounded at the vibrant instants of every day and do not feel ashamed of admitting to being speechless or dumbfounded sometimes, we can uncover unsuspected sparkling gems hidden in the nooks crannies of our mind.( "Skyward, over and above".) - Erik Pevernagie Be music always. Keep changing the keys, tones, pitch, and volume of each of the songs you create along your life's journey and play on. - Suzy Kassem, Rise Up and Salute the Sun: The Writings of Suzy Kassem Have the courage to find your tune and set vibrations the universe is aching for you to give, for the most authentic and amazing being you are, and not what others want you to be for their comfort. Grow to love being raw and flawed as you are sure you are. Grow to excel and amaze as you know you can be. Share your thoughts, your gifts, your Colors. It Matters, You Matter! Regards Livhuwani